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In the daily bustle and overwhelming concern for theher baby, parents often do not notice how unwittingly begin to indulge in the favorite child in all its moods, whims and desires, sometimes developing into insistence. Each time, achieving their own, the child begins to think that he is the most important person in the world and he is allowed everything. If suddenly the darling Mamochkin faced with the ban and some resistance to immediate execution of his desire in the form of the words "no" or "no", then immediately he begins vociferous hysterical. To avoid such mistakes in the upbringing is difficult enough, but if the time realized it, you can try to re-educate their unruly children. To understand how to re spoiled child, you must first understand exactly whether your child is spoiled?
Ten signs of spoiled
- Systematic spontaneous hysteria. The vagaries that escalate into aggression.
- Constant irritability. The child quickly bored own toys, and he begins to demand another toy baby, and wants to get it immediately.
- Stubbornness. Reluctance to remove scattered toys.
- The requirement momentary submission. Unwillingness to hear and listen to other people.
- The ability to put adults in an awkward position.
- Reluctance to share with anyone. This could turn into greed.
- Regular, long persuasion to do something. It is important that from infancy the child knew of the existence of indisputable authority of their parents (grandparents, guardian, teacher).
- The rejection of the word "can not."
- Insistence constant attention.
- Obedience only if something appease. Subsequently, this may lead to speculate that the child will, each time require any stimulation.
Note!Most often the child gets spoiled in a family where the parents do not agree on parenting techniques. Seeing these differences, the baby starts to manipulate the mother and father.
If you suddenly realized that your familydominated by a spoiled little capricious, then you've got an alarm that requires immediate action to eliminate it. The only way you will be able to raise a loving and obedient child, not selfish teenager who puts above all their desires and whims.
The process of re-education
Immediately say, that one should not rush to extremes during re spoiled child. Your mates should be calm, consistency and common sense.
Note!First we should start with what is available to explain to your child that the world except it lives a large number of people who also have their own desires and dreams.
Patiently teach the child to control their own desires to control their emotions and correctly treat a variety of life situations.
Strictly prohibits the box, according to psychologists,Only a negative impact on the psyche of children. Therefore, denying anything the child, for example in the purchase of another toy, clearly explain to him the reason for his decision. First of all, talking to the baby, make emphasis on the fact that your love for him is boundless, but immediately think of an occasion when he his moody behavior greatly upset you, and tell them that for this reason, now you refrain from buying. As a result, the baby will be sure that the parents love it 100%, but they have to punish his refusal misconduct. If you will constantly adhere to such tactics, not making concessions, the result capricious understand that no tears, tantrums and other clever tricks will not help him to get what you want.
The hysteria of the child
Often there are cases when the babyHe starts screaming hysterically, lounging on the floor and demanding something from her parents. If this happens outside the home, as a rule, parents feel uncomfortable in front of others, and to avoid confusion, they immediately meet the requirements of the child. Even once that happens, and your child will understand instantly how this method is effective and will use it in any opportunity for him. In this case, parents are advised to remain calm and indifference to trick her beloved child. No need to pay attention to the cries of a baby and follows with a straight face to do what we did. Such indifference prompts capricious, that the chosen strategy is useless to them, and he immediately cease his sobs.
In conclusion, we note that the majority ofparents work long hours in intense mode, and they did not have enough time to communicate with your child. This lack of communication employed parents often try to compensate by buying expensive toys and baby clothes, not thinking about the fact that it is much more important to be a friendly family to go to the cinema, a circus or a zoo, take a walk in the park or go on a skating rink.
Games with childNote!Children love when adults participate in various games, read together with them books, engaged in music and drawing.
Love, attention and constant communication - Is all that is necessary for your baby so that he grew clever, intelligent and obedient child.