Table of contents:
- Error 1. Physical violence
- 2. Error extremely cold
- Error 3. The abundance of love
- Error 4. Many prohibitions
- Error 5. No restrictions
- Error 6. Inconsistent upbringing
Every parent wants to be a good parent. But what it means to be good? Hear the approval of the relatives, friends and acquaintances? Or grow independent moral personality? Definitely - the second.
For the modern family education characterizeda number of misconceptions that prevent to be really good parents. These misconceptions, perhaps, have always been. Every parent raising children on my own, at best resorting to techniques well-known teachers, at worst - to the advice of others. And then, and another does not guarantee that your children will not affect the typical mistakes of family education. Without a doubt, you must at least have an idea of the most common educational fallacies: forewarned is forearmed.
Error 1. Physical violence
Physical punishment - effective wayexposure. This educational model is often elected in families with an authoritarian way of life. Here are just angry parents forget: violence often leads to psychological trauma that contributes to aggressive behavior of the child in the future.
2. Error extremely cold
Some parents believe that showing love andemotions in a relationship with the child, they risk educate egoist and a bully. This is not entirely true, it is important to just know when to stop. To deny the child in the care and support of those moments when he most needs it - it's improper installation.
Often indifference to the child is observed infamilies where the parents are busy with their personal problems. A child given himself and forced himself on the same and take care. Parents do not have enough time to deal with a child, and this naturally affects their credibility.
Error 3. The abundance of love
Educators have long noticed that the child, laterborn mother, often grows selfish, spoiled. Elderly parents spare a child, totally banning anything, his every whim performed immediately, and he literally bathed in the attention and care. Beware of making a child of God, otherwise you will be just his servants.
Error 4. Many prohibitions
It is not surprising that the child wantsto meet their needs, because it is common to almost all living beings on the planet. As soon began to realize themselves, the child seeks to implement their desires: first, they are "harmless", but further more.
Even at preschool age it is important to developthe correct response to the word "can not." If you use it too often can cause two effects: either the child's attention to the word "impossible" becomes atrophied, and he will simply cease to react to it, or the baby will be afraid to do something that "can not", and grow downtrodden and indecisive. From the outset, it is necessary to determine the most binding prohibitions violating that child hurt himself. They should not be much - a maximum of three or four. And better that child will satisfy the curiosity with adult supervision than he would still do it when you are not around, because the forbidden fruit is sweet.
Error 5. No restrictions
Child-idol - another extreme in education. We have already talked about permissiveness, when referred to the hypertrophied love for a child, but here the situation is different. Parents refuse from any restrictions in principle, consciously choosing a model of education, and even proud to say others: "I do not forbid her anything."
A child can do anything, and he actively usestheir freedom, bringing inconvenience and problems of others. Remember that parents are responsible for the inclusion of the child in society, and only with your help he will be able to learn what can and can not, how to behave at home and in the street.
Often there is more smoothed the situation,when parents are trying to ban the child something, but do it very gently, using persuasion when necessary to show firmness and determination. For example, a child in the store begging her mother another toy, and she tells him that he already has a toy that does not have money generally comes up with all sorts of excuses, finally tired of moral pressure and buys that asks the child. This behavior is fundamentally wrong: the child will elicit the desired each time, knowing that he will get his. You can endlessly to explain the child something and exhort him, and you can immediately stop "whining" categorical "no."
Error 6. Inconsistent upbringing
Often parents do not standpsychological burden. The category is replaced by acquiescence, punishment - kindness. Educational effect can not be expected from such actions. A child needs a consistent and thoughtful education.
As you can see, the typical errors of family education -This extreme, which should be avoided. The surest way - to find a middle ground where some support and regret, somewhere to show resistance, forbid something, and something to resolve. Yes, this will require an iron endurance and patience to the sea, but because no one promised that the education of the child to be easy - it is hard work that requires enormous mental and physical cost to the parents.