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The first lesson, the first call, first class. Probably not the parents who would not be proud of their children on this day. How they have grown! What became independent! And most importantly, that they have been waiting for the feast of knowledge and go to school with pleasure, and then all will be well and tuition can not worry.
Unfortunately, the bright hopes for Septemberverification are often illusory. It takes from several months to a year and love the baby to schoolwork disappears as usual. Basically, an unpleasant change occurs at the beginning of the second class, when increasing workload and demands of teachers to assimilate the material becomes stiffer. But sometimes this happens after 3-4 weeks of regular lessons, or conversely, difficulties crop up in the fifth - sixth grade, despite the cloudless previous years.
Bad marksAbout what age would be neither discussed, the symptoms of the crisisalways the same. The child begins to bring bad marks, he refuses to do homework, for no apparent reason skips classes. Blog is full of complaints of student carelessness and lack of preparation for the lesson. In the extreme, the son or daughter has flatly refused to go to school and can not be there for weeks or even months. The parents just shrug and wonder what happened all of a sudden? Why children do not want to learn?
Not finding the answer, adults attemptrequests to correct the situation and persuasion, cries and scandals, physical punishment and educational limitations. But without understanding the reasons for the investigation can not be overcome. Therefore we arm ourselves with an arsenal of knowledge of child psychology and try to understand the experience and perception of the world of the child, which will give us the coveted key to the problem.
What is the motive
The first place among the reasons for the reluctance to engage inlessons on the right is a lack of motivation. "Why should I give up, this is your study?" - Throws a naughty child to parents during a family quarrel. The child is difficult to understand, for the sake of such a lofty goal he has almost all his time to give school and homework, as there are so many interesting things - games, computer, TV. Especially when it comes to early school age.
The fact that children up to 13-14 years do not takelong-term perspective and make plans only for the near future. Growing up, going to college, profession seem something quite distant for them, and help and care of parents - forever. Such a simplistic attitude to reality usually goes away with age, but teenagers also possible loss of learning motivation. It is based - Assessment of the realities of modern society, where money and success is not necessarily achieved by high intelligence, and people with higher education often live in poverty.
Fights of local value
Solving the riddle of why the children do not want to learn,should pay attention to their school environment. Perhaps the answer lies in a conflict with classmates. Children can be quite severe, and it is possible that your child constantly zadraznivayut or even beat stronger and more cohesive peers. In today's schools are not alone cases where seniors are intimidated and humiliated youngest, taking away their pocket money, and teachers and parents are in the dark.
Sometimes conflicting relations develop betweenchild and teacher. At the elementary school, where one teacher is just a few lessons, it is particularly dangerous, because the child is in a stressful situation for a long time, at the risk of not only academic performance, but also mental health. If the school is all right, think about the affairs of the family: teenagers bad score can be a protest against your line of conduct.
Fatigue - this is serious
All the kids get tired in class, but physical strengtheasily restore proper nutrition and healthy sleep. Much worse, if we are talking about the emotional or intellectual fatigue, which overcome is not so simple, and often impossible without the help of a qualified psychologist. Provoke emotional and mental exhaustion of reserves can overload training, the desire of parents to the child was first in all subjects, and even a few clubs involved. Sometimes the children themselves, especially girls, tend to the intellectual leadership and all the time invested in training. First, the teaching is good, but at some point there is a failure, the psyche can not stand, and the ability to perceive new information decreases sharply, worsening memory and concentration.
Intelligent exacerbated by overworkemotional. The child, accustomed to be successful, it is very sensitive about the failure. Failures in school beating in his self-esteem, as well as following the criticism of them parents. Gradually the child is approved in the opinion that it is bad and worthless, and therefore tends to something does not make sense - still will not work. Since the original active in school activities, dictated by their own ambitions or desire to please their parents, replaced by complete apathy and indifference.
So, we have considered the main reasons whychildren do not want to learn. Your task - to understand their own child, to watch him, listen without criticism and reproach, and try to figure out what the reason is paramount in his situation. What to do next? To correct motivation is better to turn to a psychologist, and in the case of mental and emotional distress - this is the only correct way. Conflict situations can be solved independently, for example, to transfer a child to another school. The main thing is not to turn a blind eye to the problem and help the child to understand the need for change and help, not speaking with condemnation of the position, and from the position of trust and mutual understanding.